joi, 27 martie 2014

Humans, selfish little creatures

Lately I realized that I am selfish. But aren't we all selfish? We do tend to do what is best for ourselves, but does that make us selfish? Aren't we supposed to do things in our best interest? Maybe we are supposed to do so, as long as we don't hurt the people around us. But don't we hurt them one way or another? We expect people to behave according to our interests but if they expect such thing from us, we call them selfish. But then again, we spend a lifetime trying to figure out something that maybe isn't supposed to be figured out.

There has been made this beautiful project: Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar. Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on the balloon using a pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room. Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos. At the end of the 5 minutes no one could find their balloon. Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it. Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began: exactly this happens in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is. Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness, and you will get your own happiness. And this is the purpose of human life.

Hmm, well, I guess 'Happiness is only real when shared', right?

Now, about selfishness, I believe that it comes from the fact that we like to stick to out comfort zone. We prefer to just let people sacrifice for us, for the sake of our comfort.

That is why I got this: 

4 comentarii:

  1. OMG!! can't believe you got another tattoo!! it's nice but so...visible :)) what did your parents say? about the article.. I believe that our happiness comes from helping others. making the ones we care about happy makes us happy :) we all are a little selfish, but not necessary in a mean sort of way. you can care about yourself and your needs and also care about others. there has to be a balance and as long as the balance is right, everything is great. Kisses (alina).

    1. Hihi, yes, I actually got 2 new tattoos. I already have the post prepared but I will post it in the next few days :P Probably on Sunday. My parents... mom wants to get one too, so.. they're cool about it ^^

      Aaaand I agree with what you said :)

  2. I guess because history tells us that "survival of the fittest" is the way of life that's why we have to put ourselves ahead from each other... and then the bible came telling us that "we have to love our neighbors as we love ourselves"... Im on the edge of this argument though, I have been happy for achieving my dreams and I have been happy helping other people, but I also have that point of helping other people in expense of my own that now those people became rich and successful while I feel like being broke and a failure because of helping them... I don't know, but I guess this kind of argument is something that I don't want to dig deeper =)

    JL Arnaiz

  3. era o poveste legata de asta. se spune ca viata de dupa e o masa intinsa la care suntem toti invitati. e o masa in rai si una in iad. aceeasi masa cu aceleasi bucate alese. singura chestie e ca oamenii au mainile de la coate in jos transformate in linguri cu cozi atat de lungi incat nu ajung sa bage mancarea in gura.
    desi erau aceleasi conditii si in rai si in iad, in primul loc era pace, liniste si fericire si in al doilea era haos, dezordine si proasta dispozitie.
    diferenta dintre rai si iad e ca in iad, oamenii incearca in zadar sa duca mancarea la gura cu mainile alea in forma de linguri, iar in rai, oamenii se hranesc unii pe altii. :D

    cat despre egoism, un om care isi vrea binele nu imi pare egoist. egoist e acela care isi vrea doar binele lui si nu ii pasa de ce vor, cred, au ceilalti. cum ai zis, poti sa iti vrei binele si sa actionezi in directia asta atata timp cat nu jignesti, ofensezi sau discriminezi parerile, obiceiurile si actiunile celorlalti :D